Is being Gay normal? Or it is a kind of mind miscue? Is this trait related to person’s last life or his childhood memorabilia & parents or others behaviors in those ages? Please answer me, I really need your answer.

My question is about the Astral and Causal planes. Some people believe that when you die you automatically become enlightened – or should I say you are back to being pure consciousness immediately after death, until reincarnation. Others believe that just because you die, doesn’t mean to say you have become awakened – they believe you go to the Astral plane where you gain more understanding of your last life, and stay there until your next incarnation into the physical. They believe that if you don’t awaken during your Earth lives (however many you get) then you have to go through all your Astral life times, and if you don’t fully awaken during those lives, then it’s on to the Casual lives where finally you achieve enlightenment… Or if you do achieve it here in the physical, then you can bypass all the other planes/dimensions of existence and live as your essential nature – be pure consciousness. So my question is even if we don’t awaken during this life does death awaken us, and we remain awake until our next life, or are there other levels of existence before enlightenment and after the physical? – assuming you remain unenlightened during your physical life times and can’t see the illusion of time and space?

I’m passing through a rough moment in my life but I don’t see it that way I am learning a lot but I think that I could do more about some things, I am Mexican and I can’t work because I don’t have papers. I have a daughter 5 months old and we are living in my wife’s parent’s house. For me everything is ok with the waiting of the papers to work and give my best. Sometimes I wish I would have a teacher to advise me and that’s why I am asking you this.
In my wife’s family everybody seems to be unhappy and I know that everybody is a reflection of your own path. It’s to show you something about you and I know that I have some characteristics of those people, but Im happy and in a good spiritual moment. I feel strong in all aspects f my life.
But I have a doubt, my father-in-law is an alcoholic and is one of the most unhappy persons I have met in my life, and I don’t know if I should do something to help him realize what is he doing to himself and the people around him. Whether I should talk to him about spirituality and God, or just let him be and he would realize it in the end?. I know that somebody that is on the spiritual path should be like a tree in summer time that gives shade and protection to everybody that is near him