I’m a 35 year old woman who was briefly married to someone who was both physically and mentally abusive. I also grew up in an abusive home where there were interventions by police and child services, but no real help given to me.  My years before age 18 were a nightmare.  Since 18 and especially since my divorce, I’ve had extensive counseling and made good progress. I’m considered attractive and make a good salary as a professional but I’m finding it very hard to meet someone despite trying singles’ events, online dating, etc. I have been trying to stay positive that I will meet someone and have the children I’ve dreamed of, but sometimes I feel sheer grief at being alone at my age, having spent most of my life since 18, alone.  I also feel panic at the thought that my window of opportunity to have children is slowly but surely closing. My biological clock is ticking loudly.  I do affirmations every day but feelings of grief and fear still hit me during the week.  I feel like I’ve been “left behind.” What can I do to attract a positive, healthy relationship? It often feels like life has been unfairly cruel to me. I’m really struggling with this.
Part 2
I just sent you an email but wanted to mention everything I’ve been trying for the past 3 years to help my situation:  regular meditation during the week, affirmations, visualization, energy healing, hypnotherapy, journaling, reading your books and other spiritual/self-help books on a regular basis, and praying every day. I do yoga about once a week and try to spend time in nature. I also exercise 4-5 times a week and I’m always out and about visiting friends, going to social events, etc.
Nothing has helped me in my search for a life partner.  I even tried doing nothing for almost a year, (letting go) and… nothing happened.  Even more discouraging, I have no children and my marriage was short, yet I have friends who left long-term marriages with kids and they’ve found serious relationships while I’m still alone.  Is this an energy block? What can I do? People tell me I’m a beautiful, amazing person but I still can’t find a life partner. It makes no sense to me

In your book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success you talk about relinquishing attachment to symbols as they are transitory and being grounded in the wisdom of uncertainty. How does this law relate to relationships between partners? It is surely a natural instinct to desire closeness to other individuals, but how do we know whether this is based on insecurity and the needs of the ego or whether it is based on the desires of our true selves. Can we create close loving relationships through being grounded in the wisdom of uncertainty and relinquishing our attachment to the known? In other words is it possible to apply the law of detachment to attracting a rightful partner even though we do not have control over others?