Looking for a partner

I am looking for some clarity for my foggy brain… I used to look for a romantic relationship to fill my deepest insecurities (which of course created much chaos). Now that I am clearer in the principals of “self-referral”, I really don’t know what to look for. (I am not currently with anyone)

Could you provide me with your views on what the true meaning is to be in, look for, and expectations to have in a relationship/partner, as it seems I have absorbed too many superficial ideas.