How can I deal with a passive aggressive mother in law? So far I haven’t stood up to her, but I am so close. She has overstepped her boundaries in so many ways. My husband has confronted her about her behavior but she continues to make snide comments every time we see her or by email,  and when she does it , it is always with a smile.   She has not only done this to me, but to my parents as well.   I know she has never approved of the both of us marrying so soon after 9 months (We are over age 35yrs old and adults mind u).

My husband and I now have a one yr old together and my husband has a 6yr old from his previous relationship who visits from time to time. My mother in law shows favouritism towards the 6 yr old every time she comes to see us. Actually, she shows favouritism towards her son as well. He can do no wrong nor his other daughter. Recently she has even told my husband that the 6yr old is her favorite. My husband and I are moving to California, and when she asked about it, she didn’t show any support nor acknowledged that she is happy for us.  We have had a horrible year financially, lost two homes,  my job, my husband was injured at work.  She knows all of it and instead she said nothing  to support our decision to move.  She is a strange woman  but its her snide comments  that gets me and her judgment.   I want to set her straight and want her to know, she is out of line with her comments.  My husband has two other brothers who’s wives have had problems with her as well. It has really affected our relationship at times. I’ve gotten to the point I can’t stand her and I hate to say that. I have been married before and had had  a wonderful mother in law with no issues.  But my current mother in law is a strange bird and makes my skin crawl when she is around. I have never met anyone like her. Usually my husband supports me , but  recently he said, that I have to let go of my EGO. This floored me and now I’m more upset than ever. I know she will always be my husband’s mother, but how can I be supported by my husband and have her know he and I are a family now?

I rather enjoy reading this Q & A on your site. Thanks for providing it. My question to you is how does one let go of a troubled past? I am a recovering alcoholic and, as you can imagine, there are many events from my past that I wish had not taken place. I was involved with a lot of violence at the bars, promiscuous sex life, got mixed up with drugs for a while, and anything else that comes along with leading that type of lifestyle. In one month, I will complete 5 years that I have not used alcohol, drugs, or any other type of substance. I now devote myself as entirely as I can to living a spiritual life, and I wish to go deeper. However, I notice that I spend a considerable amount of time in the past. I often have this fear that some of the actions from my past will come back to haunt me. I have recurring dreams where a detective tells me that they have been building a case against me for the past 5 years for things that I have done. In that dream, I’m always sentenced to a prison/jail term.

I have done a 4th and 5th step in AA. In fact, I’ve gone through the entire 12 steps. I will be revisiting the 4th and 5th, as I know that I could have been much more thorough the first time around. And perhaps then I will brush up on the 9th step as well, which entails making amends to those we harmed.

The problem is, I’ve already been through the process and I can’t seem to let go of my past. I feel like, deep down, I need to forgive myself for the things that I did. I don’t want to live in fear anymore, of what might happen. I no longer wish to fear my past coming back to haunt me. Is this is a common thing for people that have a troubled past like mine?

So, do you have any recommendations for modalities that may go a little deeper than what I have already tried? To be fair, I’m going to give working the steps another chance, since I never felt right about how the first time was done. But I feel that for certain things, one needs to go deeper.

On a side note, I will soon learn Primordial Sound Meditation as well.

I have been meditating for some time now. This morning while meditating I realised something which has totally confused me.

I realised that there are 3 components.

1. Ego/Mind
2. Silent Witness
3. Spirit ,Soul or the GAP.

So we can live our lives through our Ego/Mind or through our spirit/soul/Gap. I realised that whatever the case there is still this “ME” which has the choice to live through Mind or the Soul. If this is true…who is this ME?

When I meditate , I go into GAP and realise that I with my true self, my Soul. But still there was this thing called “ME” which was with my true self ,my soul.

Is this theory correct or i got something wrong. OR the silent witness i am experiencing is my mind is disguise. Please help!!!

When you ask us to shift our attention back to the one that’s listening, who is shifting their attention?  Is the Witness shifting its attention back onto itself?

I practiced as an Architect for fifteen years and have been practicing holistic healing for six years. I was hoping some day these two areas of expertise will come together, but instead I am feeling confused and restless. 
I have been meditating for several years too, but can not seem to find a clear vision.
What would you suggest?